Intentions vs. Resolutions

Resolutions tend to be short lived. They have a specific outcome. A majority of those times, if the outcome is not met in a short time of "all or nothing," we give up. 

Resolutions are inherently not meant to last. 

However, intentions are. Intentions have a more "day by day, moment by moment" flavor to them. 

Intentions give you an opportunity to start over. Moment by moment. No messiness. No gripping. Just a breath and get back on track. 

You can choose. Either works. I'd say the latter may free you up, though. 

Happy New Years Intentions.

-Lee

Why I stopped caring if I pissed a few people off.

Now  I didn't intentionally piss others off. 

That's not what I meant. 

What I stopped doing was caring what others thought of my art. I was creating through movement and mind and body connection. And it was individualized. Still is. 

Why ?

Because the world doesn't need more sets and reps and more of the same. 

It is begging for innovators. 

For connectors. 

For lovers of intimate designs. 

The world is begging for people like you to feel listened to. 

I started to bring my loves of Neurology, Spirituality, Women's Empowerment, Yoga, and Strength Training together. Not out of randomness. It was out of necessity.

Why? Because it was worth it. 

It was and is messy. It's never certain. When is life ever certain? 

Take your pursuits and blare them loudly. Stop giving a fuck. Start creating change. 

If it weren't for pissing a few people off, I wouldn't be where I am today. 

Why too many habits can put the STOPS on your success

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It is that time of year. When everyone talks RESOLUTIONS. Well, I am here to tell you a little known secret that will help guide you through this time of "Gonna make it happen this year with my twelve new things and I KNOW this year will be different!"

Well, here it is: It won't. If you try accomplishing twelve new goals right away, you will most likely hit burn out, crash, blame yourself and the goals and say they are impossible. You will most like get resentful, throw the baby out with the bath water, and refuse to deal with the reality that CHANGE HAPPENS SLOWLY AND TAKES TIME.  And that it takes time is actually a good thing. 

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After 6 plus years of teaching and coaching, one thing has rung true the more and more I apply this to my clients and myself. Picking ONE or TWO MAX habits has them succeed. Yes, not outcomes. HABITS. Outcomes are a DERIVATIVE of the habits build. Focus on those one or two MAX habits for 2-3 months. 

You may be thinking "THAT WON'T CAUSE CHANGE! THAT IS UTTER CRAP! THE GUY ON THE YOUTUBE AD SAID 7 DAYS!!!!" Well, you may see change in 7 days. That does not guarantee a habit, however. Quick fixes leave you with little to no power to instill or sustain that change. 

So, this holiday season and with new years approaching, get clear on what you want to make happen over the WHOLE year. Break it down into no more than 4-6 NEW HABITS FOR THE WHOLE YEAR. Ask yourself "Why is this important to me?" No why, nothing to pull that habit forward into your future. 

Every 2-3 months, reassess. Ask yourself, why is that important to you? Without a WHY, your habits become chores. Those chores tend to become resentful THINGS you  HAVE to do. Don't let that happen. Ask yourself, did you stick with the one to two habits? What did you notice in cultivating the habits? What worked ? What didn't work? 

example:

*From January to March I will focus on having 1-2 fist sized amount of vegetables in my lunch and dinner. 

(It's simple, strategic, clear, defined, and habit based.)

*Create a system that works for you for tracking- I.e. your phone calendar, your notes, a notepad, a journal, a big pasteboard. Something that works best for you. 

*Shoot for an 80% or higher compliance rate (Meaning 8 out of every 10 lunches and dinners you have you are succeeding in your vegetable amount)

*After 60-90 days, look back at your progress and see what the results were!

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Don't become like the sad gingerbread man. Don't become burnt out by your wants and goals. Have them! But also be understanding that habit change is a PROCESS and is most successful when not adding too many on a plate. As the saying goes, "You can't eat an elephant in one bite." 

Happy Holidays and happy habit building- 

Lee